Men with a plan. Women with a smile.

Women love a man with a plan.

This does not mean women love it when men steamroll over them and take charge without consideration of their partner's needs and/or preferences.

But the reality is that women hold a huge mental burden, project-managing so much in their lives. Whether that's at work, with kids, laundry to menu planning... they have so many plates spinning to track and take care of. So when their partner can show up with a plan, it can be a huge relief and... source of romance. 

Women like a man with confidence. It's a misconception that women like douchebags. That is wrong. Women like a man with some confidence that decides what is going to happen.

When a man plans and executes that plan, taking that mental weight off from a women, she can relax. She more easily receives his love from this relaxed and open state of being. 

Men:

What can you plan that might either make your partner's life easier or surprise and delight her? 

Remember: Little things make a big difference. Don't psych yourself out. Start simple, small and go from there. 

This is how you can contribute to a women's happiness and bring out the best in her.

Men love a women with a smile.

This does not mean women should "fake it" or smile to appear beautify or appear happier than she actually is.

Men thrive when they are genuinely successful in delighting their partner and/or date. When they've earned the smile.

The smile is a form of body language that communicates that a women sees a man's love and effort and appreciates it. It's a sign she is genuinely enjoying herself. And when he can take credit for contributing to this joy, he feels on top of the world. It's like a drug and he just wants more.

This is how you can bring the best out in a man. 

He may not be perfect; his efforts might be small and tentative as he builds confidence that he can please you.

Women:

Focus on the little things he does that are right, that genuinely please you. What is something he did right that you can connect with your gratitude for?

When you feel grateful and touched that someone is at least trying to make you happy, your face naturally does the rest.

...this small choice is the fertile soil for romance. And we can choose this any day and everyday. Remember, thriving in love doesn't have to be complicated. Just keep learning and taking small steps.